I was having dinner with a friend tonight. He’s single and likes to go out and meet girls in clubs, bars, and all the usual predatory places. Except that he is looking for a long-term relationship. A girl to marry and who’ll want to have lots of babies. Well, three. That seems a lot to me. He’s also a nice, morally straight-ahead guy. In fact he goes to church every week. I don’t know anyone who still goes to church on a regular basis.

Anyway, I was asking him what he is looking for in a girlfriend or potential partner. He listed all the basics, not much more: She is hot. She is nice..girl next door type. She is smart and easy to talk to. She has a positive, upbeat demeaner. She is hot. Did I mention he wants her to be hot? He did make a good point about dating in a city like L.A. Here, there are a lot of choices and a lot of model/ actress types, so there are plenty of hot girls.

Why settle? So, when he meets one and they go out, if he finds himself looking around for potentially hotter girls, he decides she’s not worth pursuing. It’s an endless game of chase. I guess my question to the guys out there is…what do you really want, the hot model or the girl next door? If you are primarily meeting girls at bars, you’re likely looking for something different than a girl-next-door nice type.

Fun night doesn’t necessarily mean lasting relationship. I’m not dissing the bar scene, I’m simply stating that if you prefer bars and clubs to other ways of meeting dates, you’re likely looking for relationships that don’t have much staying power. He claimed the hot girls don’t go to church functions, so it’s kind of a waste of time. I say, if you want the hot girl, own it. Don’t sugarcoat it for the rest of us. You’re the one who wants to date her.